Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Failing is success

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I worked on a project for 8 hours last week and then I deleted it.  Intentionally. 
Here's what happened:
You see, this project I was working on is new for me.
It's a training course online, an info product.
(If you're on my list, you've seen me send some emails about it).
I’m building it as I’ve seen it done by others, but honestly, it’s just not feeling right.
I worked on it for 8 hours over 2 days.
After a restless sleep the 2nd day, I woke up and deleted it entirely and intentionally at 4am.
Then I slept well for a few more hours.
So, why did I wake up in the middle of the night to intentionally delete all of my work?
The following day, I cleared my schedule to work on it some more, but knowing you can't solve a problem with the same mind that created it, I knew I had to do something different.  
Here's what I did, that you can do when you're feeling in authentic or having a Sisyphus moment. 
1) Step away from the thing.You can not solve a problem with the same mind that created it.
I knew if I kept at it, I'd be forcing something that may not be meant to be.
You see, 'trying' to figure something out is another form of forcing it to work. {click here to see what I have to say about the word try}
So, I stepped away from the project completely.  That small action - which felt equally huge, uncertain and terrifying at the time, created a space for new ideas, options and possibilities.
2) Ask for help.Sometimes you have someone you call.  Sometimes you don't.
In this case, I knew the answer was within me, I had just created so much noise from the 'need' to get this done, I couldn't hear it.
So, I asked, openly, to the universe, for the willingness to see this differently.
In other words, I prayed about it. 
3) Stay open to possibilities 
There is no use is asking for help if you're just going to do your thing anyways.  There's a name for people like that, they're called ASK-holes!
After you ask for help, you must stay open to receive the message, fully and completely.  Be so open that you adopt and embrace and embody the idea as if it was your own.  That is the only way it will stick.
4) Do something different.After I asked for help, started getting some hints at possible next steps, then the work started!
I prepared to show up fully for the assignment when it became clear.
The first step was to fully close out the project, which meant doing something I had NEVER done in my business before.  It was uncomfortable at best.  But I knew it had to be done.

This is what growth looks like.
This is what you can't do, and can't talk about in traditional work environments. You can't do and openly fail. You can talk about and truly explore and understand failure.
But failure happens 99% of the time.
Success only happens once, and then you move on to something else.
Mastering failure. Getting comfortable with it. Learning to embrace, accept and explore it - that's what creates the success.

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Till next time!!
Liz :)

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